Dating in your thirty’s sucks, there, I said it. I will assume any women who is still single in her thirties feels the same as I, but I could be wrong. If you are like me then you know to find your Prince Charming, we unfortunately must continue down this dark uncertain tunnel of doom. . . I mean dating. Side note - can I just put this out there and speak for my fellow single- thirty -something -year- old- women-
Stop asking us when we are going to settle down and raise a family. I cannot stand when people ask me if I want to get married and have children- YES! The answer is YES. - DUH! Do you really think I want to be alone for the rest of my life? That’s a hard NO.
End rant. Ok. . . I am not what you call an “expert” of online dating, I have however been a part of this world for almost a year now and can accurately tell you it sucks! But as I previously stated if you want to find Prince Charming you’re going to have to suffer through it. You’re going to have to weed out a lot of bad and crazy and just plan what in the actual fu*k! For example, you may get a gentleman in their 60s who won’t stop messaging you; claiming they’re rich and there for you should date them.- um, yea. . . No. Or you may get a guy who likes you and when you check out their page and pictures it’s all of him with a ton of half dressed women. - like really? Perhaps, you start talking to someone and you really like them! Then things get weird and you find out they are really into feet and eyebrows. . . I honestly have no words to describe how unsettling that is. Maybe, you connect with someone and you accept their “like” and they send you a five-page message about their life and what they will not deal with in a relationship. - um, I think I may know why you are single. Maybe, you get a ton of guys who only put-up pictures of their trucks or motorcycles, inappropriate tattoos, chest hair- like seriously there was just a picture of his chest hair (that was a first for me too) or an actual picture of them but with a cigarette hanging from their mouth, or them giving the camera and ultimately you, the middle finger.- Seriously!? - why?! One of my favorites is the good old selfie! When taking a selfie gentleman, please make sure to clean your surroundings or at the very least cut and edit!
If your bed is in the background maybe make sure it’s made or at least get the pile of (I hope clean clothes) off the bed or the dirty dishes off your dresser. If you’re in your bathroom and using the mirror make sure there is nothing in the background that should not be seen!- especially in the toilet- yes, you read that correctly- I won’t go into details, you can use your imagination. Also, be careful on the products you leave on your bathroom counter. FYI- girls can read labels. And before you ask- yes, these are all true! I was in each one of these. . . shall we call them . . . Nightmares? Ok, it was not all that bad, you will meet someone you do like . . . But it will be more of a “friend” situation, unfortunately there is no attraction on your part and take the cowards way out and ghost them. Hoping they take the hint so you don’t have to go through the whole process of trying to let them down gently. Knowing in the end you’re the worst because you just hurt someone’s feelings who was super nice but felt nothing for them.
If you’re in this same boat as me, just know you’re not alone... and even though it may seem hopeless and bleak (very bleak) at times, don’t give- up we are bound to find our one true love... right? Please say right! Until then let's all raise a glass and cheers to the thirty-something-single-ladies...
Lets hear some of your dating stories!
-Sam Fulkerson
Center Director of The Learning Experience South Lyon West
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