Where do you even start with this topic? I know all my fellow moms out there have been there, done that and could have bought the t-shirt on this one. I was talking to one of my directors today about my mom guilt and she recommend I write this, and I could not agree more. My husband and I work tirelessly every day to provide the best for our children but that is just it, in doing so we miss things.
As a mom of 3 missing things NEVER gets easier. I justify a lot of things like buying a new purse because I “needed it” or spending $200 on shoes for my boys but for some reason I am unable to justify missing anything my kids do. I have surrounded myself with many amazing friends who will cheer, hug, and support my children when I am not there but we all know that is not the same thing. What if I miss that first home run? I know life will go on and they know I love them but still……#MomGuilt.
Here is the flip side to #MomGuilt. My boys get so see their mom be a strong, independent, successful business owner. They understand and as much as they want me there, I hope they get it. Thank goodness for FaceTime and every other app, thank you super smart people, that allows me see my boys in real time. Not sure if this makes it better but it definitely makes it tolerable.
I have taken the red-eye home, landed and literally went to a game, sacrificed countless hours of sleep (but what mama hasn’t) all to catch an inning, a quarter, a routine or anything else I can burn into my memory. These times are going by WAY to fast and I want to soak in as much of this as I can.
Mama’s out there don’t be hard on yourself, and I obviously don’t practice what I preach or I wouldn’t be writing this blog post. Just breath it’s not always the big moments they remember, it’s sometimes the little ones that mean the most. Big picture time, you were there more than you think. Looking back, I can’t even remember a time when my parents weren’t there and they both worked so thanks mom and dad.
Being a Mama is by far my hardest job, I feel like all of my blog posts have a central theme, hence the reason for the blog. Us moms gotta stick together. Support your girlfriends’ kids, cheer for them when they can’t be there, send her a video, give an extra high five or good job. It truly does take a village.
Please whatever you do, don’t judge. Trust me there is no where else I would rather be than in the bleacher, lawn chair or stadium cheering them on, but the cards aren’t always played out that way. It does not mean I don’t love my kids or don’t care about or that work comes first but sometimes I have to adult! Just to be clear work never comes first but unfortunately the reality is, I can’t make everything and that means I take the road less traveled and be the best version of myself at both home and work. I thought maybe after I wrote this my mom guilt would be better, but I just found myself checking my phone to see if my son got a hit………and so it continues.
Mollie Blixt, Owner and Area Manager of The Learning Experience Gurnee, The Learning Experience Independence, The Learning Experience Grand Rapids, The Learning Experience Beltline, The Learning Experience South Lyon and The Learning Experience South Lyon West
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